How to Convince Your Roommate To Do Chores

Home | Blog | How to Convince Your Roommate To Do Chores
roommate chores

Reading Time: ( Word Count: )

Already picked a roommate, asked the right questions beforehand, but now having trouble getting him or her to do their fair share of the chores. Household chores are a necessity for any apartment or home, which is why everyone needs to chip in – including your roommate. So, how do you convince your roommate to do their fair share of the chores?

Here are some tips:

Have a Candid Discussion About Cleanliness

Bathroom Cleaning Supplies |

It’s important to have a frank discussion about what cleanliness means to you. Discuss and come to an agreement as to what is and isn’t acceptable. For example, can dishes be left out overnight? How often does trash need to be taken out? Are clothes allowed to be on the floor if temporary? How long can empty food containers or cups be on the counter? How frequently do you need to vacuum? You shouldn’t be surprised to learn that your definitions of cleanliness probably don’t align.

Decide On Roles and Responsibilities

Once you have talked about the standard of cleanliness for the apartment, it’s important to determine roles and responsibilities so everyone knows what they have to do. Put together a list of household chores (in writing) and determine who will do what and how often. Some important household chores to consider including on your list –

  • Sink dishwashing – who washes dishes after every meal or at the end of the day?
  • Dishwasher loading – if you have a dishwasher, who stacks it and when? Who unloads it and when? Be specific.
  • Laundry – does everyone do their own laundry, or will there be a common day where everyone’s laundry is done together? Who does it and when? How long can clothes sit once done?
  • Vacuuming and mopping – how often, when, and who does it?
  • Cleaning the bathroom, including toilet, shower, and bathtub – how often, who does it, and when? What about the common bathroom?
  • Cooking – if you intend to share, who is responsible for each meal, and what do the meals look like? You don’t want to end up preparing an elaborate 3-course meal if your roommate is just going to do sandwiches.
  • Taking out the trash – how often, when, and who does it?
  • Cleaning dust and grime – how often, when, and who does it?
  • General tidying – how often, when, and who does it?
  • Keeping stuff in their place – everyone ideally should be responsible for keeping common areas clean and tidy.
  • Clean up after guests – if one person has a group of guests over, who will clean up after that and when.

If you have a concern about your roommate’s lack of cleanliness, try and approach it in a calm and friendly manner instead of being confrontational.

Keep Track of Chores

Responsibilities For Apartment Carpet | Person Cleaning Carpet |

Naturally just having an agreement in writing isn’t enough. Everyone has to carry their own weight so it is a good idea to use a spreadsheet or whiteboard to keep track of chores that are complete and yet to be done. You can also list who is responsible for them. Here are some things to include –

  • What needs to be done
  • The person responsible
  • The number of times the task should be done
  • A section to sign off when the chore is done or to mention when it will be done

This is especially useful especially if you or your roommates are forgetful. A spreadsheet or whiteboard also tells you if things aren’t done and for how long, so you can agree and make changes as needed.

Take Turns Doing Specific Chores

It might also be a good idea to take turns doing specific chores so everyone does a little of everything and the worst jobs aren’t left to one person in particular. This is good because not everyone enjoys cleaning the toilet, for example, or doing the dishes every time. It also keeps things even between you and your roommates. Perhaps, depending on the layout of your apartment, each person is responsible for cleaning their own “side” of the apartment, and the common area cleaning is split every other week.

Find a solution that works for you. Being up-front, honest, and getting an agreement in writing can help keep everyone on track and reduce household tension.


* indicates required

Don't Forget to Share this post! If you like it!

Fidelity Management – Our content has been featured or mentioned nationally by some of the industry’s best websites including:
ApartmentGuide | | MyFirstAmartment | RENTCafe | The Balance …and many more



Finding an Apartment


Leasing an Apartment

Living in an Apartment

Moving Into an Apartment


Things to Do In Philly

News and Announcements

Editor’s Picks

Ben Franklin Bridge leading into Philadelphia at sunset


Stay a Smart Renter. Join the Group!

* indicates required

Related Articles

Decorating Ideas for Smaller Apartment Bathrooms

Decorating Ideas for Smaller Apartment Bathrooms

When it comes to the bathroom, many tenants feel that decorating is a big challenge due to its small size and lack of flexibility. Thankfully, bathroom decor doesn't have to be complicated. There are plenty of ways tenants can spruce up their bathrooms without...

read more
Can I Sublet My Apartment?

Can I Sublet My Apartment?

If you are renting an apartment and have considered subletting, you’ve come to the right place. What Is Subletting? Since you found this article, you might already know what subletting is. But just in case, subletting is a term used to define the act of releasing your...

read more
1 Share
Skip to main content
Share via
Copy link
Powered by Social Snap